It's a conundrum, being part of any fandom. You're bound to make connections (which is good) but then you're also bound to see goofy stuff (which is bad). When people I like behave badly...it just upsets me terribly. It's exactly as you say; an embarrassment. It sort of obscures all the good reasons you became a fan of that thing in the first place.

Better to like what you like the way you like it & let that be enough. Right? ;-)

LOL...you do sort of sound manga-esque (I can see you shaking your fist & glowering as you "crush their spirit") but as long as it's in good fun & keeps peace on the message boards, it's working.

Oh my busy bees we are! But busy is good.