Yeah, I'd be in a foul mood after all of that, too. I have always lived with slobs who don't see the problem in leaving crap everywhere, letting the place get disgusting, etc. The reason I am so pathologically against doing dishes now is because I was the ONLY one who did them when I was a teen.
The first thing is to get some sleep, because that will help take the "irrational" edge off your mood...leaving only the completely and utterly rational pissiness! (you have good reason! lol)
I'd make a poster titled "What I Did Today" with three columns, one for each of you. You write down your giant list (and don't spare the details! Don't exaggerate, of course, 'cause they'd crucify you for that, but give them everything!) with what little (non helpful) things they have done in the other columns.
Then, try a job list. Or whatever you think will get their attention. Not cooking is a good one. When they come around wanting to know where dinner is, you can tell them "sorry, you're on your own". What other things are they counting on you to do? Non-essentials, but things that will inconvenience them like...Char wants you to drive her to a friend's house. Sorry, not until you clean the litterbox. Greg wants...I dunno, whatever he wants from you. Sorry, not until you take out the garbage. Whatever.
I can't believe you still make breakfast for your kid. Holy crap, my mom would have let me starve, 'cause she knew it was something I could do on my own and she had to get herself ready to go in the mornings. If they're not appreciating everything that you do for them, stop doing some of it. Cook for just yourself (or go get Chinese food just for yourself!). Do only your own laundry. Char loses her phone...sorry, tough luck. (you could have a tracphone or something like that for emergencies only) Enough to be able to say, look at all of the things that I have been doing, and you can't even clean up when you spill some OJ?
I just can't put up with that crap. My ex-husband was like that. He had a man-cave that I totally didn't care if he trashed, as long as the rest of the house was kept fairly in order. But, inevitably, things would start piling up, and periodically I'd do a quick sweep, grab it all up and just chuck it into his room in one big pile. If he couldn't find something? Oh well...should have picked it up. ;)
Anyway...I love the new mask. I'm really a huge fan of the verdigris look. Don't be too hard on yourself with the selling. Post something every other day if it gives you some breathing room, y'know? And I hear you about the photographing and writing of copy. I did a lot of selling on eBay in the past and that was the part that always SUCKED.
*hugs*
(p.s. If all else fails...cry. That was my mom's secret weapon. It always got us right back in line.)
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Date: 2009-01-28 04:51 pm (UTC)The first thing is to get some sleep, because that will help take the "irrational" edge off your mood...leaving only the completely and utterly rational pissiness! (you have good reason! lol)
I'd make a poster titled "What I Did Today" with three columns, one for each of you. You write down your giant list (and don't spare the details! Don't exaggerate, of course, 'cause they'd crucify you for that, but give them everything!) with what little (non helpful) things they have done in the other columns.
Then, try a job list. Or whatever you think will get their attention. Not cooking is a good one. When they come around wanting to know where dinner is, you can tell them "sorry, you're on your own". What other things are they counting on you to do? Non-essentials, but things that will inconvenience them like...Char wants you to drive her to a friend's house. Sorry, not until you clean the litterbox. Greg wants...I dunno, whatever he wants from you. Sorry, not until you take out the garbage. Whatever.
I can't believe you still make breakfast for your kid. Holy crap, my mom would have let me starve, 'cause she knew it was something I could do on my own and she had to get herself ready to go in the mornings. If they're not appreciating everything that you do for them, stop doing some of it. Cook for just yourself (or go get Chinese food just for yourself!). Do only your own laundry. Char loses her phone...sorry, tough luck. (you could have a tracphone or something like that for emergencies only) Enough to be able to say, look at all of the things that I have been doing, and you can't even clean up when you spill some OJ?
I just can't put up with that crap. My ex-husband was like that. He had a man-cave that I totally didn't care if he trashed, as long as the rest of the house was kept fairly in order. But, inevitably, things would start piling up, and periodically I'd do a quick sweep, grab it all up and just chuck it into his room in one big pile. If he couldn't find something? Oh well...should have picked it up. ;)
Anyway...I love the new mask. I'm really a huge fan of the verdigris look. Don't be too hard on yourself with the selling. Post something every other day if it gives you some breathing room, y'know? And I hear you about the photographing and writing of copy. I did a lot of selling on eBay in the past and that was the part that always SUCKED.
*hugs*
(p.s. If all else fails...cry. That was my mom's secret weapon. It always got us right back in line.)